Haters Gonna Hate

Welcome to Thursday! Today I thought I’d share a few random-y thoughts that have been circling through my mind recently.

I’m Excited About My Upcoming Mother-Daughter Trip to New York

In just a couple of weeks my mom and I will be off to NYC for a few days. We haven’t taken a mother-daughter only vacation in a very long time.

When I was younger we use to always go away for my birthday together, but of course all of that changed when I went off to college. While we’ve gone on short, weekend get-a-ways together since then, this will be our first big vacation. Speaking of which, I need your recommendations for the best show to see on Broadway! I’d like to see Book of Mormon but I’m not 100% sure my mom will like it…?

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Also, while in NYC I plan to do as the locals do and go running in Central Park!<–Cannot wait!

Visiting the Place Adam and I Met

Back in the fall of 2004 Adam and I were both students at the University of Central Florida (UCF) in Orlando. We both ended up transferring down to FAU here in Boca Raton, but UCF will always have a special place in my heart as our meeting place.

Neither one of us has been back to UCF since 2006. Adam initially moved back to South Florida in 2005, but he would drive up to see me almost every other weekend.

I can still vividly remember pulling out of the city for the last time as I drove down I-95 towards my new life in South Florida in July 2006.

I stopped at a Racetrac gas station and got a cup of red grapes to eat on the three hour drive. I then proceeded to listen to Losing My Religion by R.E.M on repeat.

I was at a point with my eating disorder where even I knew things were really bad and a big part of me wanted to ask for help, I just couldn’t do it. There’s no way to explain to someone who has never had an eating disorder why you can desperately want to ask for help but are too petrified to do it. It just is what it is.

Part of the lyrics in Losing My Religion say:

Consider this, consider this
The hint of the century

Consider this
The slip that brought me
to my knees, failed
What if all these fantasies
Come flailing around
Now I’ve said too much

That sort of summed up how I felt. I wanted to drop a hint, I wanted to slip up and say something that would allow someone to ask me if I needed help, but at the same time I didn’t want all of my “fantasies” to come crashing down. It’s a sick way to live.

I was really excited to move to South Florida though. Despite all of the darkness in my life that stemmed from the eating disorder, Adam has always made me happy.


Back in 2006 we were both glad to say goodbye to Orlando, but I am really excited to go back and see the old campus. It’s honestly the most beautiful school campus I’ve ever seen and we have a lot of memories there.

THIS Christmas Miracle

Yesterday a “friend” of my moms called me a liberal as an insult. As the conversation progressed he eventually said the words “Kristina is stupid” like a five year old on the playground instead of a 65 year old adult jumping in on a conversation he wasn’t invited into in the first place.

I somehow was able to string together a decent retort despite my intellectual incapabilities. It was truly a Christmas miracle.

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Some people just never grow up! I know it’s easy to get heated over politics but resorting to name calling doesn’t really add anything to a debate. Plus it’s kind of rude and reflects poorly on your own character. Oh well. I’m basically ^ that pug right now ;).

Any Broadway recommendations?
What’s the best play you’ve ever seen? 
Am I the only person who didn’t really love Wicked? I do love the song Defying Gravity though!
Favorite thing to do in NYC? 



  1. December 3, 2015 / 5:46 am

    That pug!!! Liberal is NOT an insult. I wear the title with a badge of honor. 🙂 That sucks that the guy was rude to you but I am glad you had a retort. I never think of the right thing to say until way after the fact.

    You are going to have a great time in NYC! Obviously, I highly recommend Book of Mormon if you are able to get tickets. 🙂 The last time I was in the city overnight I ran in Central Park for the first time. It was freezing, but there were hundreds of people out and I really enjoyed it. Make sure you run around the reservoir. I don’t know if you watched Sex in the City back in the day (I feel like you must have!) but whenever Miranda would run it would usually be there and I recognize the fence that surrounds it from the TV show!

    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:08 pm

      I’m usually the same way… always thinking of a good retort way after the fact. I got lucky yesterday 😉

      I actually didn’t watch Sex and the City. That surprises EVERYONE but I have never even seen one episode!

  2. December 3, 2015 / 6:45 am

    Did you ever have to drive I-4 to get to UCF? Worst road ever. I’m glad UCF still holds good, important memories for you. How have you been doing recently, since going back to therapy? I hope you’re doing well!

    Knowing the exact right comeback at the right time is truly a miracle. Sometimes I think of the perfect response days after the fact! I enjoy a cordial political debate, but some people don’t seem to know the difference between debating and fighting; I pride myself in being a pretty good debater haha.

    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:09 pm

      Oh YES I-4 is such a pain in the ass! Too many tourists who don’t know where they are going or what they’re doing. ALWAYS full of accidents!

      Therapy is going well, thanks for asking! I am seeing a new-to-me doctor and I like her A LOT which is a first for me. That’s made a world of a difference in my attitude heading into sessions.

  3. Mika
    December 3, 2015 / 8:41 am

    Heya, I’ve been lurking on your site for a while now but figured I’d share some of my fave NYC stuff to do (I’ve lived here for 20 years).
    – Take the Staten Island ferry, it’s free and it’s got amazing views of Brooklyn, Staten Island, the city and Jersey
    – Go to the Brooklyn promenade and pier. That’s free too, you can take about 10 different trains to get to this area.
    – I LOVED Wicked, its a must see if you can get tickets. (Check out the TKTS app to see which shows have reduced price shows for that day. I’ve heard that the line in Brooklyn is a lot shorter.)
    – If you want to travel to different boroughs, I definitely recommend the Hall of Science in Flushing, Queens. You take the 7 train, it’s above ground and you can pretty much see the different neighborhoods before you get to your destination. (The Hall of Science is free on Sundays from 10AM-12PM, other times I think its $12pp)
    – If you haven’t been yet, I think the Empire State building/rockefeller view is much more impressive during the day than at night.
    – There are great restaurants in Williamsburg, Brooklyn and it’s so trendy right now and you can say you’ve been to Williamsburg!

    Hope this list wasn’t too overwhelming 🙂 If you have more questions, feel free to e-mail me and I can give you more hints.

    • December 3, 2015 / 2:52 pm

      Great list of suggestions Mika! I am actually thinking of a quick getaway to NYC this month and although I’ve been to NYC before I’ve never visited the Science Museum or the Empire State building. Adding that to my list. I did do the Staten Island ferry and highly recommend it as well…great free way to see the city from the water! Thanks again 🙂

      • Kristina
        December 3, 2015 / 11:13 pm

        Two votes for the Staten Island Ferry + FREE makes it a must do for me now! 🙂 Thanks Kate!

    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:12 pm

      HI Mike! WOW thank you so so so so much for all of the recommendations! I will need to email you as it gets closer – we aren’t going until the end of the month. I’m really looking forward to it. The last time I was in NYC was back in 2000 and I barely remember anything except going to see the Rockettes!

      I’ve heard about TKTS and the very long lines – thanks for the tip about Brooklyn!

      I just looked up the Hall of Science – definitely want to go!!! Thanks for that one too!! You’re the best!

  4. December 3, 2015 / 8:50 am

    Make sure you pack lots of warm running clothes for your Central Park run!

    I have heard so many amazing things about Book of Mormon, it is definitely on my list of things to see. I think Phantom of the Opera might be my favorite, the songs/sets/costumes are just amazing. But there are so many plays/musicals that I haven’t seen, so I don’t know if I am super qualified to give advice. I saw Wicked a couple years ago, it was good, but not my favorite.

    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:14 pm

      I have to buy warm running clothes!! I only own one lightweight long-sleeved tech tee!

      My mom has seen Phantom of the Opera before – I think it’s her all time favorite too!

  5. December 3, 2015 / 9:50 am

    Have a wonderful time with your mom! I have found I give the best responses in situations like that when I take about 10 seconds to compose myself, because my immediate response is to “lash” back.
    Bring warm clothes!

    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:15 pm

      Oh man, it was difficult to not lash back, but someone had to be an adult in the situation 😉

      I will bring warm clothes I just hope they are warm enough! I wish Florida would get a little cold so that I could ease into the temps!

  6. Susan
    December 3, 2015 / 9:52 am

    Wow–I can’t believe she called you stupid. I am a liberal and will say so proudly. Even if someone is conservative, I can respect that but know the facts and do your research people!!

    I have seen so many shows. Wicked is probably my favorite. The Lion King is also very good.
    If you show me a list of what you are thinking, then I can give my further opinions 🙂 LOL.


    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:17 pm

      SO TRUE. I don’t mind having a healthy debate, in fact I love a good debate, but resorting to name calling just sucks the fun out of everything. I mean, what was I supposed to say, “not uh, you are.” So lame!

      I feel like EVERYTHING is currently available! The list is so long! My mom said she thinks she will like Book of Mormon… but then again she’s never watched South Park. I may need to give her a primer before we spend a small fortune on tickets 😉

  7. December 3, 2015 / 10:13 am

    Have a great time with your Mom! I will have to do that kind of thing when my daughter gets older. I have never gone on a “girl’s trip” with my mom 🙁 And now, I need to because life is short so I should go see her! (thanks for the reminder) All of this talk about NYC has got me very interested in going! It sounds really exciting!

    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:18 pm

      Thanks Lisa! You might need to take a girls trip with your mom to NY 🙂 I’ll let you know how it goes. Hopefully I’ll come home with lots of good recommendations!

  8. December 3, 2015 / 10:23 am

    I agree with Mika above that Wicked is amazing. Chicago is really good too. I also agree that you should take the Staten Island ferry–very neat views and FREE! Have a great trip; I love NYC! 🙂

    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:19 pm

      Three votes for Staten Island Ferry! I’m in! 🙂

      Thanks so much, I can’t wait!!

  9. December 3, 2015 / 10:58 am

    I’ve heard that The Book of Mormon is hilarious, but definitely not politically correct. If your mom likes South Park, she’ll probably like it! Had to laugh at both the cat & pug pics here. Ha!

    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:20 pm

      She has never seen South Park, but she’s not easily offended. I think she could get into it. I might need to show her an episode of South Park first!

  10. December 3, 2015 / 11:27 am

    That pug! love it.

    It is deeply problematic that so many of our political conversations resort to name calling or something quite like it. Democracy simply can’t work without engaged dialogue… sigh. That said, I recognize that I am guilty of not participating in political conversations because I often want to avoid the conflict. Which effectively renders my voice mute and privileges the “loudest voice in the room”. Sigh again.

    On a happier note, I LOVED the Book of Mormon. I don’t know your mom so it’s hard to say… my parents would like it but they’ve watched South Park with us kids and have some sense of what the creator’s humor is. It is pretty offensive. There was definitely one song that I thought crossed the line for me, but I still really enjoyed it on the whole.

    • Kristina
      December 3, 2015 / 11:21 pm

      Yes, yes, yes to everything you said about engaged dialogue. I used to avoid talking about politics but lately there have been so many awful things going on – mass shootings, defunding planned parenthood – so much misinformation going around. It’s hard to keep quiet!

  11. December 3, 2015 / 11:47 am

    Hope you have a great trip to NYC, and you will have to post pics from your run in central park. I can’t imagine that feeling of darkness and need for help, I’m truly glad you’re in a better place although knowing it’s a continued struggle every day.

    I don’t understand nAme calling in a debate. But you have it right, it really shows what time of person they are and really reflects badly on their character.

    Mrs Schlub and I have seen a Christmas Carol and STOMP. Both were awesome. Mrs Schlub saw The Lion King and still says it was the best show ever.

    Never been to NYC…sorry lol

  12. December 3, 2015 / 12:37 pm

    My dream is to see The Phantom of the Opera on Broadway and to run in Central Park. I have seen the Phantom in Vegas and literally had goosebumps during the entire show. It was AMAZING! You will definitely have to take pictures of Central Park so I can live vicariously through your experience. 🙂

    I don’t know why people feel the need to put others down when they don’t share the same beliefs or values. It’s sad that people can be so closed-minded and disrespectful.

  13. December 3, 2015 / 3:18 pm

    I just got back from a mommy-daughter trip to NYC!!! We went to see the Lion King mostly because it was 9-year-old-friendly but what really stole our hearts was the ROCKETTES!

    Just a word of warning I got lost running Central Park which wasn’t a big deal because I loved every minute of it, but I more than doubled the mileage I had intended for the day.

    I honestly avoid Facebook almost entirely now because people I cared for (not just acquaintances) had drastically different political/religious/humanity beliefs than me. It has caused me to lose–correction, LET GO of a lot of friendships. I refuse to get into arguments that have no purpose and now I wonder why we were ever friends in the first place? My brain is much less stressed out by staying off of Facebook. Those individuals continue with their rants of hatred, ignorance and racisim and I’m blissfully unaware.

  14. December 3, 2015 / 5:42 pm

    I saw Book of Mormon and thought it was really good. But, as Jennifer said, it is definitely not politically correct and there is a lot of humor in it that is not exactly family appropriate, if you catch my drift. Have a GREAT time in NYC!

    Name-calling is the classic resort of people who don’t feel confident enough to defend their ideas. It’s weak-minded and a classic attempt to unburden themselves from actually having to withstand a debate by shifting the focus. Good for you not falling for it and you’re so right that it says more about his character than anything. I have noticed these days that “liberal” has become a general insult, and it annoys me – not just because I identify with a lot of liberal ideas but also because it signifies a deeply troubling shift in our culture that we now think someone’s political beliefs are a valid reason to insult, personally attack and dislike them. I know politics has always been contentious but it seems like it’s just gotten really bad now. Ann Coulter-esque dialogue used to be confined to the overzealous few and now it’s become the norm. I know more and more people, on both sides, who refuse to even be friends with people who don’t share their political beliefs.

  15. December 3, 2015 / 7:07 pm

    I can’t stand the way people these days (including some of my family) are throwing around the word “liberal” as an insult. It’s so ridiculous! I can understand the frustration.

  16. December 8, 2015 / 6:57 pm

    I wasn’t a HUGE fan of Wicked either! I would love to see the NYC Ballet one day. Hmmm things to do… if you guys like Japanese food Cliff took me to Yakitori Taisho (small place) for some yakitori..yum! I can’t wait to see pics of you running in Central Park. Do you have winter wardrobe all ready? hehe