Don’t Judge a Book by it’s Cover

Today I just really need to vent, and I apologize in advance! 

Yesterday I was out at a client meeting with one of my coworkers. The meeting was at a fancy hotel on Miami Beach and he and I were discussing vacations while we waited in the lobby.

Gorgeous hotel I was at for the meeting.
Gorgeous hotel I was at for the meeting.

I mentioned that recently Adam and I booked at a 5-star hotel for a short getaway in July. I was bragging a bit because Adam and I rarely splurge on stuff like that and I’m really excited. Anyway, I told my colleague that one reason I was extra happy is because the hotel has a reaaaalllyy nice gym with fancy treadmills.

His reply, “but you don’t work out do you?”

(Mmmmk, thanks.)

My reply, “yeah, I go running 6 days a week, I’m training for a marathon and I lift weights.”

His reply, “Oh REALLY????” followed by a shocked face and then the follow up question, “how long is a marathon?”

Me: “26.2 miles”

Him: “Oh, you’re going to run that much?!”

Ugh.

You can’t tell by looking at someone whether they workout or not, and making assumptions (and saying those assumptions out loud) is just rude.

Plus, I really don’t think I look that out of shape to warrant such a reaction. I’m not as lean as an elite runner, but at every race I’ve been to I’ve fit in with the crowd.

At any rate, I am very much aware that the weight I am now is not my healthiest weight, and I am working on it. I weigh 30lbs less than I did a year ago, and I still have a journey ahead of me. That’s the reality of battling a cycle of starvation, bulimia and compulsive overeating and finally finding health.

Anyway, I’m sorry to share such an annoying story today, but I just had to vent because I was so upset and embarrassed by my colleague’s comments. I was hoping that getting the story off my chest would make me feel better … and it does! : )

If you read this whole post, thanks for listening!

Do you have a bucket list? What’s one thing that’s on it? 

– To run a marathon!

14 comments

  1. Maureen

    Sometimes the simplest advice that our mothers taught us if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all is the best advice I wish more people here would follow! Sorry you had to deal with such a jerk I think you rock!! And you are helping to motivate others with your love of running and fitness so forget all the bad eggs out there with no filters and ignorant remarks. Jerk!!
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  2. cheryl

    That makes me angry too! You should have challenged him to a 10k smack down right then and there! At least by his comment of not knowing how far a marathon was, it lets you know how far removed he is from the whole scene.
    Glad you vented…Thanks for all of your posts!
    I signed up for a marathon the end of October…a Boston Qualifier…I am nervous! Let the long runs begin…

  3. Megan @ Meg Go Run

    WOW what an asshole. An asshole who doesn’t even know how long a marathon is. I am so sorry he was such an ignorant prick. I would have been upset too. I am glad you vented, that is what we are here for! Clearly he has never been to races, because like you said, successful runners come in all different sizes. Do you ever wish you could go back in time and throw a snarky comment at someone like this? Like, “Um, I’m KRISTINA and I have a running blog and I’m a BIG FREAKING DEAL!”

    1. Ali @ Hit the Ground Running

      AMEN!
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  4. Amy

    Meh. It sounds like you have a good attitude, but that was extremely rude of your colleague! If you did not have to work with him everyday, I’d tell you to give him a real piece of your mind. Anyway, I think I need to now convince david we need to book a five star hotel. He’s not really into the spa thing but I can surprise him and he’ll have to like it, right!?

  5. Kim

    So sorry that you had to deal with that – I don’t get what goes through people’s heads sometimes!!! (or maybe that is the problem – they don’t think)
    I think that the beauty between all of us (runners, walkers, cross-fitters…..) is that we all look different yet enjoy some of the same things. I don’t have super thin legs but I like that they are strong!!!
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  6. The running schlub

    What a douche bag!! Some people are just idiots and you can’t do anything about it but move on and keep working towards your goals. Chalk this one up on the list of “stupid things non runners say”.

    I’m glad you vented because that is what makes up come back and keep following your journey. Like Meg said above, you have a blog and you ARE a big deal. Thanks for sharing, forget about that douche bag, and let’s keep training hard.
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  7. Ali @ Hit the Ground Running

    You know, running has truly taught me you CAN’T judge an athlete by their body. I’ve been smoked by so many “non-traditional” looking runners, it’s crazy. And sometimes I beat those people who look so slim and fit on the outside.

    I can believe that a non-athlete would be so outright rude about whether or not you “look” like you work out. Because those who don’t exercise don’t know how to look for slow, steady progress, muscle tone, higher energy levels, etc. I’m sorry your colleague was rude, and was so totally socially inept that he couldn’t hide his surprise. Like, seriously, have some tact!

    I’m so proud of you for staying on this healthy road. Rebooting your metabolism after having an ED is no joke, and you’ve done such a wonderful job of getting healthy and fit in a smart, balanced way. Congrats on losing those 30 lbs. You’ve worked hard and it DOES show. You are so much more confident now – I can see it in the photos you post. I think you should invite this jackass for a nice 12-miler and see how he does.
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  8. Lou @ Running Through China

    Oh my god, what a rude arsehole! Seriously, I feel like skapping him upside his head, so angry on your behalf! Grrrr…. 🙁
    Some people are just idiots. Please dont let him get to you and upset you further. Just remember how amazing and inspirational you are, on here but im sure in ‘real life’ too. YOU know how hard you train and your own personal goals, as well as how far youve come with your recovery (which is phenomenal and something to be very proud of hey).
    Hmmm, I wonder if he works out himself or trains for anything? His attitude smacks of insecurity and jealousy methinks.
    on another note, your 5 star hotel sounds amazeballs! Yay for that!!

    You’re amazing and you rock Kristina, feel free to vent anytime hey! 🙂

  9. Lou @ Running Through China

    Ps l meant sLapping, not sKapping, whstever that may be, lol… but was just kidding hey, being quite a pacifist. But definitely a metaphorical slap anyhow!

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  11. Kristina Walters @ Kris On Fitness

    What an ass! You are not alone my friend. I read this and totally understand because I am NOT the traditional runner either. I ran my first half this last May and I have 30 pounds left to loose. I get that same crap from people on occasion and it really bites. I may not be thin or really fast but I am out there doing it and so are you so that is the only thing you should be focusing on.
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  12. Karen

    That burns me up!! Kristina you are beautiful person – we all come in different shapes and sizes and you are extremely fit. 30lbs less is quite an accomplishment! When I first gained weight a few years ago everyone kept asking me if I was pregnant :/ it would kill me, but that’s how I gain weight it just all hangs in the front. I have fought the same battle as you when I was younger…Be proud of yourself, you are a fighter 🙂
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  13. Heather @ girlgoesrunning

    One word: Idiot!!!!!! You are so inspirational and I love reading your posts! Keep doing what you’re doing girl 😉
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